I decided on some guidelines sometime ago, after I came out to a couple of friends. I don't believe that sexual orientation is a topic to be assumed or discussed upon first meeting someone, so it took sometime to come out to my friends after moving to Atlanta. I believe(d) the following circumstances deemed a direct answer, but tonight I didn't come through on number 4.
I should tell you that I'm gay if:
- you are gay
- you are a straight woman that hits on me
- you are my mom and dad (they know now and I'm happy they do, but I don't think everyone's parents are quite like mine)
- you ask me if I'm gay. (there should be no beating around the bush on this one "are you gay?" should be the question)
I think one more change in life will ultimately correct this weird work/friends relationship that I have. I don't feel that anyone I work with needs to know I'm gay, because to date they don't know?maybe
I've betrayed my own statements and beliefs today.
I met some "friends" at a restaurant tonight, a straight republican makes a joking statement that democrats are gay and then says ... right Steve? His girl replies, "what is he not straight or a democrat?" I swiftly reply that I'm a democrat. I feel that this is a violation of rule # 4 in my own 'rules of conduct'.
I've dodged the one question that I thought I'd come out with if I was straight up asked. I have reasons for not answering the question. Although I could argue that I answered the question in a matter of speaking. Maybe, they already know?